No matter what the reason is or how many justifications you put forward, cheating in a relationship is bad. It’s one of the cardinal sins in life that you do not cheat on your partner, spouse or other half. If you don’t like the person or have troubles with them, you either sort it out or just leave.

What people don’t realize, is that women are known to have cheated on their partners just as much as men have. While the causes for men are usually simple, figuring out women can be difficult. Listed below are 6 reasons why a woman might cheat.

6. Emotional Connection

At least 90% of the men’s reason for cheating has to be physical reasons. They couldn’t keep it in their pants. However, in most women’s cases, cheating is done due to lack of emotional connection. More often or not, women feel that they have lost the emotional spark they had with their partners. Maybe their lives have become all about being the perfect wife and mother and she misses the little things that a man used to do for her. So when a woman feels this way, and she meets somebody who connects with her on the emotional level, she will end up cheating.

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A couple of years ago, I worked with a co-worker who hated me. She talked negatively about me to other team members and challenged me openly on several occasions. The cherry on top? She told my boss she was better suited to be manager than I was.

Just because it stemmed from her frustrations with her own career, it didn’t make my experience any easier. I felt like I had to constantly defend myself, and my work had to compete with all of the negative attention.

Looking back now, though, I can see a silver lining. Her disdain toward me taught me five things about dealing with people who have it in for you:

1. Start With Yourself

It’s too easy to conclude that people don’t like you just because—without taking a look at yourself. Before deciding it has nothing to do with you, take a moment and consider if you’re doing things that could potentially be offensive or insensitive.

It could be something you’re aware of—like if you’re hyper-competitive and willing to step on others to get ahead. But it could also be habits you’re not attuned to, like finishing people’s sentences.

So, ask for feedback from someone you trust. Your boss or co-worker can provide perspective on how you’re coming across to others, and why you may not be received so well. This’ll give you an opportunity to adjust some of those behaviors, and then, revisit the relationships that may’ve gotten off to a rocky start. (I know it’s a tricky conversation to start, so here’s a template that’ll help you ask for honest feedback.

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Friends who give tough love just want what’s best for you.
A new study at the University of Plymouth found that people who insult their friends aren’t necessarily mean-spirited — some just want the insultees to benefit in the long run.

Scientists surveyed 140 adults and asked them about hypothetical situations.
“We identified several everyday examples where this might be the case — for instance, inducing fear of failure in a loved one who is procrastinating instead of studying for an exam,” psychological scientist and the study’s author Belén López-Pérez wrote.
The researchers found that subjects who were mean to their partners were more likely to be empathetic and want their partners to succeed.

“These findings shed light on social dynamics, helping us to understand, for instance, why we sometimes may try to make our loved ones feel bad if we perceive this emotion to be useful to achieve a goal,” López-Pérez said.

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The human nature allows for a form of behavioral filter, where people only show you the sides of them they want you to see, for as long as they want.

That is why you could be dating someone for seven years and not that know he or she is married with a family abroad, or in some extreme cases, in the same city as you.

Someone could also hide from you some toxic behaviors that you may never find out until it’s too late. Sometimes, however, you could get really lucky and discover the behavior before any damage is done.

Here are three situations that could show you your partner’s true identity.

1. Anger

You really can’t tell for sure if that your partner’s sweetness and cuteness is real until there has been a real situation of provocation. Anger is one of the windows into a person’s real thoughts and people have been known to do some of the wildest things and air some of their darkest opinions when in rage.

They may return to their senses and say they did not mean to do the things they did, and that could be true but do you want to stay with someone who has no control over their anger?

2. Wealth

Some people are faithful only when they haven’t blown. It is wealth that shows just how real a person’s humility and care, faithful and affection is.

3. Bad times

Sometimes, falling on hard times could be advantageous. If your partner truly loved you or came round for the wealth, you will likely know.

If this happens, you really should be glad you dodged a bullet.

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First, how long has it been going on? If your friend has been great in the past but is currently all-consumed with something (she’s up for a promotion at work or she just had a baby, for instance), she might dominate conversations because her brain is occupied by her own stuff. Telling her how you feel can help. Say something like, “I know you have a ton going on, and I am always here for you, but I have some things I’d love to share and get your advice on.” She might not even realize how one-sided your relationship has become and may actually appreciate the nudge.

On the other hand, if this friend has a consistent pattern of being self-centered, she may not be capable of anything else. In this case, ask yourself if the good from the friendship outweighs how self-involved she can be. Then decide if you can accept the friendship as is. The truth is, some friends are good for different things. Maybe she’s great for a girls’ night out, but not for a deep conversation after a crappy workday.

Keep in mind that you could be part of the issue: If you’re someone who isn’t comfortable talking about yourself or who is always the “fixer” for others, you may find yourself in one-sided relationships. Maybe sometimes you even enjoy these situations because you feel needed and useful. But it sounds like you’ve hit a point where you’d like things to be different, so practice turning the convo to you: Start by sharing a bit about yourself and asking for your friend’s opinion when solving problems. It may feel unnatural at first, but stepping into the spotlight here and there can balance out your friendships over time.

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Dr. Gary Chapman’s book, “The 5 Love Languages” was published since 1995 but remains a bestseller till date.

In the book Dr. Chapman, through 30 years of experience arrives at the conclusion that relationships will be easier if only couples could understand each others love languages.

He says people respond best to certain actions and to get the best out of your relationship, you have to know what your partner’s favourite action is.

While all the languages are great and should be a part of all relationships, there’s always a predominant one and that’s the one to mostly focus on.

Some partners thrive on physical touch. It’s their love language.

1. Physical Touch

Partners like this are very hands on. They’re always willing to cuddle, hug, kiss, and generally just continuously be in physical contact with your body

Physical neglect and abuse should be avoided with this kind of partner. It kills them on the inside.

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Every day when I check my email, men are asking me. Do women still cook? Or Why don’t women cook anymore? When I check the stats on my blog. One of my most viewed articles, that’s viewed every single day is Why Men Love Women Who Can Cook.

What this is telling me is that hungry men across the globe are looking for a woman, who knows how to throw down in the kitchen. Even if a man can cook, he wants to know that the his wife-to-be, is going to be able to feed him and his children. I don’t know why this is so hard to understand.

Men let me give you a little advice… you listening…

If cooking is important to you and you want to get married one day and have a family. Find out early when you start dating a woman, if she knows how or enjoys cooking. Just ask. Don’t be afraid to have this talk. I keep hearing from men, that they have a beautiful wife or significant other but she doesn’t know how to cook. You men keep being blinded by the booty, I mean beauty, LOL..

Find ways to bring up the topic of food. If it’s not important to you on the first couple of dates, and you’re not really feeling her, then don’t mention it. But if you find yourself really liking a woman and you missed the mark of asking her if she cooks. No need to fret.

There are all sorts of signs that the woman you are dating, does not like to cook:

If you’re a dating a woman and she likes to eat out all the time, or ask what restaurant you are going to. That’s a tell-tale sign she does not like to cook. If she never mentions inviting you over for dinner or going over to your house for dinner. That’s a tell-tale sign she does not like to cook. Offer to take a cooking class for a date. If her reaction is lackluster. You know she has no interest in being in the kitchen.

If she has a drawer full of take menus within a 5 mile radius and restaurants on speed-dial. Thats a tell-tale sign she does not like to cook. If you do get invited over to her house, mention that you are hungry or ask her what kind of dishes she likes to make. Based off her answer. Something like, I haven’t cooked in weeks. That’s a tell-tale sign she does not like to cook.

I know a few women that have confessed to not cooking in over 2 months and they have children. All I can think about is those poor children and her man. Every womans kitchen should look like it’s being used. I don’t care how clean a woman is. You can tell if the kitchen has been used. There should be signs of the gas range being cooked on and the oven being used. Even some grease escaping on the hood of the filter.

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If the woman you’re dating, if her kitchen looks like a model home’s kitchen. That’s a tell-tale sign she does not like to cook. If a woman makes up excuses for not knowing how or learning how to cook.

For example, I know a few women that have said, I’m independent and I’m focused on my career, making money and my education. I don’t need to know how to cook for a man. That’s the dumbest shit I ever heard. As if educated people or working class people don’t cook.

If you’re in a womans kitchen, pay attention to the dinner ware and silverware that she owns. If she only uses plastic cups and plates or it looks like her silverware is from the 99 cent store. Then that’s another tell-tale sign she does not like to cook.

Look around to see if there are any cooking gadgets and utensils, that would normally be on the counter. Don’t be afraid to peek in the cabinets either, lol. Go for it! This is your chance to see if this woman you’re interest in dating, if she is “wife and mother material”.

The same way a woman wants to know if you have a degree or a make good money and drive a nice car. And she’s looking at your attire and shoes. Don’t be afraid take a peek around her kitchen. Lol. Open the fridge too or offer to make something to eat or get something to drink for the both of you.

If she jumps up real quick and doesn’t want you peeking in her fridge, most likely that’s because there is no food in there. Any woman who enjoys cooking, won’t mind you being in her kitchen. Pay attention to the cookware too. People who enjoy cooking will not have scratched up cookware that looks out dated.

If you buy a woman a cookware set or plates and silverware and her reaction is not a good one. That’s another tell-tale sign that she does not like to cook. A woman who loves to cook, will be elated she has new cookware. I remember a guy I was dating bought me a red plate and bowl I was looking at. When he gave it to me, he couldn’t believe how happy I was, LOL.

Yeah he laughed at me. He said, it’s just a dish not a pair of shoes. Damn, I never seen a woman get so happy over a plate and bowl. Well it was the thought that counts. I have been looking at the two piece set for a while, but I was waiting for the price to drop. I thought of all the pictures I could take with my food. How pretty it would look :).

I’m telling you men to do all of the above, because I’ve done it to women I know. When I go over to a friend’s house, the kitchen is the first place I go to. I’m always scanning another woman’s kitchen. LOL because I like to cook and I love food. When I open the fridge, the first thing they say is, I haven’t went food shopping. I’m like oh ok, you said that 3 months ago….(birds chirping)

They even start making up excuses on why they have not cooked. There have been a few times where I had to bring my own pot and pan over to someone house, because I couldn’t use their cookware. Not to mention a real dinner plate, bowl, glass, fork, spoon, knife gadget, measuring cup. Yeah, lol…I don’t eat off of plastic or paper plates. If it’s not 18/10 stainless steel, I’m not eating with it and neither should you.

Men of course you should know how to cook for yourselves. Especially if you live alone Cooking is a life skill. You should be able to cook for your lady too. Plus it’s healthier and it will save you money. But if you plan on being old-school and you want your future wife to cook. Make sure you know all of the above :).

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Since the ability to attract a woman is seen as a greater scientific mystery than alchemy, there have been many studies on this subject. Next time you go to the club in an attempt to seduce a woman (hint: the girls you find in clubs usually aren’t the droids you’re looking for, silly Stormtrooper), take a look at these 10 scientifically proven (I’ve said so twice, so it must be true!) methods to attract the ladies. Or as we call them in “the hood”, women.

10. A Ring

More specifically, a wedding ring! I guess Beyoncé wasn’t lying after all, huh?

09. Beards

Added bonus: no more daily shaving for you, my friend!

08. Playing Guitar

What, you thought Keith Richards got laid because he looks like a Greek god?

07. Deodorant

Not really rocket science here – women like it if you don’t stink that stinky, rutting-buck stink. And so does everyone within an arm’s length of you.

06. A Sense of Humor

Make ‘em laugh, don’t make ‘em cry. Unless you make ‘em cry with laughter. That’s fine. Just make her enjoy herself, I guess.

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1. Classes.

This one is best for those that are still willing to learn a thing or two. Whether it’s undergraduate or postgraduate classes, a class is a good way to meet that woman you’ve been thinking about. What makes it interesting is the fact that you both have common interests and have prolonged exposure to her. You can always offer to help them with a class task or offer to walk them home. Anyone that you choose will be a perfect opportunity to ask her out on a date.

2. Social media.

This option is also quite popular among the younger generation. The advantage that lies with meeting someone over the Internet is that you don’t have to commit yourself immediately as you have sufficient time to know if you’re willing to progress with the relationship. Another advantage is that you get to know quite a bit about them and you can prepare in line with what you know.

3. Religious houses.

If you’re looking for the kind of girl you can spend your lifetime with, where else better to look than the church or any other religious institutions? Social invents organized by these places are the best times to go scouting. The truth is quite a number of women here may have been repressed and are on the lookout for a man that’s willing to show interest in them.

4. Musical show.

You’d probably have to scream at the top of your voice while trying to converse with her just like a typical nightclub but you at least know from the beginning that you both have something in common. You have an easily accessible conversation point and you’re favored by the fact that the musical Show will get to end at some point.

5. On the street.

Meeting a woman on the street is usually difficult to pull off. It is important you get every stage right from planning to execution if you hope to sweep her off her feet. The trick here is to make her feel the whole thing was spontaneous even though you planned every detail. You can initiate a conversation by saying a simple ‘hello’, asking for the time or simply commenting on how pretty she looks. Accompany your chat with a smile and you will most likely get a positive response.

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Here, doctors explain potential infections you can get from kissing, along with exactly what you need to know to stay as safe as possible.

1. Herpes

Herpes may be incurable, but it doesn’t make you a pariah. In fact, it kind of makes you normal. Around two-thirds of the world’s population under the age of 50 has herpes simplex 1 (HSV-1), which is known as the oral kind of herpes, according to the World Health Organization. And around one in every six Americans under the age of 50 has herpes simplex 2 (HSV-2), what’s known as the genital kind of herpes, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

The thing about HSV-1 is that it sometimes creates cold sores in and around the mouth. “If you’re kissing someone with lesions in their mouth, mucous membranes make herpes easy to transmit,” Idries Abdur-Rahman, M.D., a board-certified ob/gyn, tells SELF. So, if someone you’re kissing has HSV-1, they could give you the virus (even if they aren’t currently experiencing an outbreak, a phenomenon known as ‘asymptomatic shedding’ means they can still transmit it, says Abdur-Rahman). And if they go down on you, they could transmit the virus to your genitals.
If you or your partner has cold sores, over-the-counter medications like Abreva can shorten the outbreak. There are also antiviral medications like Valtrex that people can take on a regular basis to prevent outbreaks from occurring.

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Romantic relationships are strewn with obstacles. There are always good times and bad times between two people who love each other. The most difficult thing is to maintain the flame that united you 5 or 10 years after your meeting. Some end up content with monotony, others still seek to save the essential.

To test the strength of your relationship, ask yourself these questions below

1-Am I becoming a better person?

We can not compare the influence of the environment to that of the partner. The partner has 80% influence over us. If after 6 months or 3 years, you have changed an attitude or behavior is good sign.

2-What did I bring the best to my spouse?

And yes, vice versa, as much as the partner influences you, you should bring him something more. The other is not this malleable paste that we would like it to be, subject to our desires. But there is always room for concessions.

3-Do you think two?

In projects for the future or e

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Compatibility in relationship is such a big deal that its importance keeps getting [rightly] hammered on over and over again. In essence what compatibility entails in this context is the ability of two people to coexist without [manageable] conflict and problems.

The likelihood that two people will be happy together in a relationship or marriage is predicated on their ability to find a common ground on many things. Couples in healthy relationships and happy marriages see eyeball to eyeball on so many subjects – sex, finances, communication, etc.

It is what makes relationships tick, that connection of thoughts and like-mindedness on all matters of life. The harmony of life values contributes to the success, wellbeing and continued existence of their relationship.

If you ever wonder why couples break up for irreconcilable differences, this is one of it. Their ideas of how things should work in the relationship must have become unworkably disconnected, irreparably detached to such extent that redemption could no longer be found for them.

If you ever wonder why couples break up for irreconcilable differences, sexual incompatibility is one of it.

And here’s what’s more important to learn in this compatibility discourse: it is never enough to find agreement on just some aspect[s] of life. Partners’ views on all of life’s issues have to be synchronized, especially on matters that are of fundamental significance to their being together – like sex and spirituality.

Of course, the importance of sex does not need any special explanation anymore. Everyone in a relationship or marriage and even those who intend to someday get into one already understand how vital this is. Due to the elevated role of sex in keeping people happy in romantic relationships, it makes perfect sense, as we have already clearly stated in this previous post here, that sexual compatibility is a thing that partners need to discuss before getting together, and must continue to strive towards long after they’ve become an item.

Having said that; it’s about time we also touched on the spiritual angle of relationships and marriages, something that doesn’t get as much attention or discussion as other relationship aspects, despite being just as important.

ALSO READ:This Is How To Know Your Partner’s Love Language Today

In a society like ours where religion is a big deal and romantic relationships with huge potentials have been cut off solely on the basis of religious differences, religious compatibility is something to reckon with when going into relationships. In a society like ours where religion is a big deal, religious compatibility is something to reckon with when going into relationships.

While some will say their partner has to compulsorily practice the same religion as them, some aren’t so strict on the rule. And while it may be an insignificant thing at the beginning when two people are just sizing each other up, going on dates and all, difference in religious beliefs could snowball into the only deal breaker when people somehow find themselves connected on all other important levels except on the subject of their faith. This is why it is important to ask from the get-go if differences in religious beliefs will be an issue down the road or not.

Even when practicing the same religion as a partner, you need to know if your understanding of the religion is in the same line, or maybe theirs is a brand too zealous than you can handle. In Christianity for example; some folks have no problem giving all their income to God as seeds and covenant offerings. Is your Christian faith strong enough to the point that this won’t be an issue especially when a partner keeps doing it like, every month?

There was a story once reported on social media of a husband who gave up the only family car as an offering right in the middle of service, only for the wife to throw a very wild tantrum on their return home before going back to get the car back from the man of God. Won’t it be an issue if, somewhere along the line, one partner becomes too invested in the things of the spirit?

Will it be an issue if, somewhere along the line, one partner becomes too invested in the things of the spirit till it affects their outlook on life, dressing and appearance, child raising, sexual activities, availability, etc?

It has become such a clichéd soundbite to hear single people speak of a desire for only God-fearing partners. And while that may be admirable, it is also important that whether before or after getting those relationships, partners need to gauge and converse enough about their ideas of religious beliefs and spirituality; such that they’re always on the same page and operate on the same plane when it comes to the things they do in their faith, and how it affects their relationship and marriage.

Just as a disconnect in sexual energy has the capability to disturb the balance of a relationship/marriage and set a foundation for resentment, incompatibility of religious beliefs and spirituality has the ability to cause some serious damage in your relationship or marriage.

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There is a type of imperfect relationship you could be in. The type that you force yourself into, knowing it’s not right for you, knowing it’s not really what you want.

Because of the type of society we in live in, and the attachment of ‘too much’ importance on relationships and love, especially when you get to a certain age, too many people have had to settle for relationships that are less than fulfilling, because they simply want to conform to society’s standards, or because they don’t want to be alone.

Yes, I totally understand how crazy things might get; your friends repeatedly asking you why you don’t have a girlfriend, your mum asking when you are going to come introduce your girlfriend to her, etc.

The pressure could be exhausting and annoying, but you don’t have to cave in and settle for just anybody because you are being pressured.  Don’t be pushed into a life of unhappiness.

Here are three reasons why you should not settle for a relationship just for the sake of it.

1. Your odds are better than you think

You are an amazing young man, an amazing lady with straight priorities, you do not cheat, you are faithful and loyal and sweet and smart.

Come on, that you haven’t met someone yet, or  that you have heard so much bad things about cheaters, and read so many hoe stories on Twitter does not mean that there are no good people out there anymore.

Don’t ever settle for the mentality of “there are no good girls out there anymore,” or “all guys are cheaters.”

Don’t do that to yourself. There are tons of great people and your chances of finding them are greater than you think.

ALSO READ:3 types of f—boys you don’t want to end up with

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When you are single and ready to mingle but nothing seems to be coming forth; there’s a tendency to consider yourself, your ‘great’ traits and wonderful features and conclude that you’re alright and it is only a matter of time before someone great comes along.

But, really, will it be a matter of time, or a matter of change?

Maybe your singleness is not so much an issue of visibility than it is a matter self-delusion. What if you really are not as great as you’ve made yourself believe? What if you are doing just fine but somehow still fall short of the requirements needed to attract the type of man or woman you want?

  There is a need for brutally-honest self- assessments whether you are single or dating or married.

You know, it’s easy to conjure the picture of an ideal partner in your mind but not so easy to have an appropriate image of yourself.

And this is why it is important to frankly ask yourself the introspective question – ‘would I date myself?’ and always provide brutally-honest self- assessments every time you do so [it should be very frequently, by the way.]

ALSO READ:Here are 5 Questions to Test the Strength of Your Relationship

That could be where the key to finding a partner lies for you and several other singles reading this. Even for people who are already dating and those who are already married, there’s a continuous need for self-assessment, to constantly view one’s self through the clear prism of candid introspection.

  Sometimes you just have to sit yourself down and ask “Will I be happy with my partner if he or she acts this way?”

Will I be happy with my partner if he or she acts this way? Will I be cool with them treating me this way? Will I ever accept this type of behaviour from them?

If there’s some character flaws about you that you would never endure from someone else, don’t be selfishly deluded into thinking they would bear it from you.

Also Read:Main Reasons Why Many Men Marry Late

It doesn’t work that way. If you wouldn’t take it, get to work on yourself and honestly strive to evolve beyond that.

By doing so repeatedly, you continuously  become a better version of yourself up till the point where are confident enough to answer in the affirmative when you are asked: “would you date yourself?”

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